If I only knew then what I know now.

For eleven years I begged my obstinate elderly father to allow a caregiver to help him with my ailing mother, who needed full-time care after a massive heart attack. But he adamantly insisted on taking care of her himself. Every caregiver I hired lasted about three days and then I'd get the familiar call: "Jacqueline, I just can't work with your father. His temper is impossible to handle. He screams and yells and stands over me--and he won't let me do anything. I don't think you'll be able to get him to accept help until he's on his knees himself".